Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Being Free

"Pretty hurts," my 8-year-old daughter Lucy said to me, as she pranced around playing dress up in some of my clothes and a pair of my heels.

Since I started doing the fashion link up with the pleated poppy's what i wore wednesdays (wiww). WWIW link up was started by blogger/business woman extraordinaire, Lindsey, as a "fun way for us to encourage each other to simply get dressed each day, and get out of our pj’s or yoga pants."   I've thought more about fashion than, well maybe ever.  And it's been fun (click here to read Color Popping).  It's been therapeutic (click here to read about my Closet Therapy).

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My daughter is usually the one taking pictures of me for these posts.  We have fun together.  She asks to show off her fashion and I take a turn as photographer.  She has some mad fashion sense.
After she shuffled into the kitchen in my special occasion heals, I worried about how all my interest in fashion was affecting her.  The very same day, Willow Smith's song and video for I Am Me premiered.  Have you seen it?  Her hair is short and her shirt is huge.  She sings about not needing validation and being free.

Oh my. So, on this independence day, while I link up to what i wore wednesday, I want to be intentional about the messages I send to my daughter.

I've been having a blast putting together outfits with styles and colors I might not have tried previously. I think Lucy gets that it's about having fun, self expression and feeling good.

But maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea to tell her every now and then too.  I want her to be inspired by my creativity and my willingness to take risks and be independent.  I want her to know there is nothing wrong with loving flowers and hair bows.  And there is absolutely nothing wrong with not loving those things either.  

I want her to know that pretty doesn't have to hurt. I want her to know she is beautiful and brilliant. I want her to be free.  Free to be herself.

Lucy gets a lot of hand me downs, nice hand me downs.  But what I love about her, is she never wears an outfit the way it was "supposed" to be worn.  She pairs the most interesting items together.  Some days she loves "matching" her choices.  Other days she seemingly has no interest in anything except for comfort.  She needs socks to wear with her tennis shoes? She grabs the clean ones, no matter that it's 105 degrees and the socks have snowmen on them.  It's cool.
Maybe I've had this all wrong.  She is free.  Maybe I need to worry less about teaching and see what I am already learning from my daughter and little Willow.  Maybe I need to lighten up a little.

In honor of lightening are a few fun, cheap fashionista outfits I wore this past week.

Shirt- Resale Shop, $4.00

Yellow Shrug- Target Clearance Rack $7.98

Denim Cut-offs- Old (pre-kids circa 2000) Old Navy jeans cut (unevenly, but that's cool, right?)

Working on my fitness and boy did I need some motivation.  I usually wear all black, but I just bought these fun colorful shorts and it did make my run a little more fun.

Black top- Marshall's $13

Reebok shorts- Dick's Sporting Goods on sale for $19.99 

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